Have you ever encountered  friends in your life who are emotionally needy 98% of the time?

They drain you, they put you down, they insult you or your lifestyle etc…never in overt ways, always subtly, always insiduously and you might never even realise it. Just that you wonder why you always come away feeling bad about yourself.

To me, friends are important and they impact us at every stage of our lives…because of their value in every step of my life, I believe that positive friendship is necessary. Unsupportive, unequal and unsatisfying friendship can really stress. 

I guess as we grow up and we move on in our lives, picking up different experiences, careers, partners etc, it is inevitable that people change and needs change. As I grow older, my expectations change and I don’t want to waste time on negative r/s that stress and make me unhappy. I want to be able to spend my time and effort on those few friends that are positive, who are supportive, honest….basically a balanced r/s between 2 peers. And hopefully along the way, I get to pick up more of such friends to share my friendship with. :)